We spend a lot of time in something called confusion. This is a time AND energy waster for sure. Think about the last time you had a to make a decision, big or small. How long did it take you to decide? Did you go back and forth? Ask others for advice? Make list after list? Those were the time wasters. The energy you spent thinking about the different scenarios, all of the things that could go wrong, all of the things you hoped would go right, all of that thinking was the energy waster.
Eliminating the time and #energy it takes you to make a decision will be a life changer! This of course is easier said than done so keep reading for some tips!

The way we think about our life is all a #choice. You may be faced with the decision of whether or not to stay home longer on maternity leave or go back to work. Once you make the choice, you can either worry that you made the wrong decision, see all of the negative outcomes, or you can decide you made the best decision and see all of the positive ones.
Let's say you decide to stay home with your baby. The entire time you are home you can think about how your career is on hold, how you do the same thing day in and day out, and how you don't have enough money to do much of anything. OR you can think about the fact that you are bonding with your baby, how you get to see the first of everything, and how you don't have to be pulled in a million different directions as you would be if you were working.

Let's say you decide to go back to work and your #baby is put into daycare. The entire time you can feel guilty that you are not with your baby, you can worry that they are not getting the attention you want them to have, and feel like you never do anything right at work or at home. OR you can decide to be proud to be showing your child that you can do anything you want as a woman, use the money you make to go to museums and on vacations, and be excited that your child is learning to be with other children and adults at such a young age.
Can you see that in each scenario it is all true? When you decide to think: I made the best decision for me and my family, the evidence just shows up to support it. When you think: I made a huge mistake, the evidence supports that thought.

So any time you are faced with a choice as big as returning to work or as small as the type of baby food you buy, decide to have your own back once the choice is made. Decide that you know what is best for you and that you will make the best decisions.

Another trick you can do that goes along with above is to imagine or write down the best case scenario for both options. For example, you go back to work, your baby loves the daycare they are in, and you spend a ton of time together and bond after work and on weekends. AND you stay home with your baby, you get to see every single first, and you start working on a side hustle that you make money and absolutely love to do during naptime! You can make all of these things true with your thoughts, so it is as good as done.
What is something you have been going back and forth on? If it's a decision you have yet to make, practice the best case scenario for both then make a decision. Decide that you are making the best choice and remind yourself of all the reasons why. If it's one you made already but you keep second guessing, write down all of the reasons why it was the best choice for you and your family. Whenever you start to doubt yourself, take out that list.