I know every single mother out there is tired and lacks the energy and time to do anything for herself. The bad news is that yes, moms do have a lot on their plates. The good news though, is that there is so much that you can control in order to create more energy and give yourself more time!
Our energy comes from how we fuel our bodies, but it also comes from what we choose to think about and not think about. If you want more energy, you can certainly do all of the things you already know about: eat a healthy diet, drink water, exercise, get enough sleep, meditate. BUT there are so many other things I bet you are doing that drains your energy and you don't even know it.
Procrastinating:
We all do it! You keep saying to yourself, "I really need to go through my mail", "This weekend I am definitely going to organize my closet", "During lunch, I will finally make that doctors appointment". Then the time comes for you to do the thing and you forget, or you are pulled in a different direction, or you are just too tired to do another thing, so the task is pushed off for another day. However, the task is still taking up space in your brain. When something is taking up space in your brain, then it is taking up energy! This leaves you even less likely to get the tasks done that you keep putting off. It's a vicious cycle. The best way to solve this problem is to plan your week ahead, put things on your list that you have to get done, and do them when you say you will do them. There is a lot more to it, and you can learn how the process works in more detail in my course: More Time and Energy for Moms.
Being Judgmental: Our mental energy is precious. There is only so much of it in a day. The thoughts that we think either fuel us to take positive action or they drain us and make us tired leading to things like overeating or watching too much Netflix. When you judge yourself or others, you are taking up mental energy that you could be using building yourself or others up. When you think positively, you have more energy, you treat others better, and you feel better about yourself. Don't spend your time judging people, spend your time getting something on your to-do list done! The next time you choose to judge someone else, just remind yourself that that person is doing the best they can with what they have.
Being Confused: We spend so much of our lives in confusion. Thinking about whether or not to do something, going back and forth on decisions, or wondering if we made the right choice. Especially when we are in charge of raising little humans! The good news? You have a choice. You do not need to live your life in confusion. Instead, when faced with a decision, you can just decide and move forward. Easier said than done right? Well the secret to this strategy is to always have your own back. Never go back and say, I should have done this. Go all in on the choice that you made and make the most of it. If it doesn't work out, then that decision was just meant to teach you something and make you stronger and smarter. Every decision you make is the best one for you. Once you go through life making decisions this way, you will get so much more done AND you will develop a more trusting relationship with yourself.
There are so many more actions we take that drain our energy. Some of them are:
Worrying about the future
Regretting the past
Multitasking
Feeling overwhelmed or busy all of the time
Not setting boundaries
Committing to things you don't want to do
Drama
Not asking for help
Starting something and not finishing
If you are really serious about taking control of your energy levels, I am here to help! I am creating an online course to help you manage your time and energy. Send me an email or follow me on Instagram to find out when it is published!
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